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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Dilemma

Mereka kawin beberapa tahun. Tak de anak. Then they decided to adopt. Anak adik suaminya. Anak adik saya. They brought the daughter bagai menatang minyak yang penuh. As  life has it's own way of dealing cards, the wife was diagnosed with cancer 18 months ago. Abang jaga siang malam. He quits his job to take care of her full time.  Nak harapkan sapa lagi ye dak? Dah bini dia. Dialah jaga. Ahli keluarga pun tolong jugak. Dah nama adik beradik. 

On the 1st of November, 2012, she lost her battle and passed away.

Now, the daughter is 6 years old. With no mother. The mother she known had died. But her biological mother is very much alive. Sekarang nih how do u deny her  a mother's love? Mak betul dia hidup lagik. Duduk dekat je rumah. Kalau budak nih dah besar, lain lah cerita dia pulak. Sekarang nih nak uat macam mana?Adik ipar saya takkan nak nengok anaknya besar tanpa mak sedangkan dia duk molek situ jugak.

My brother, pak budak ni takkan nak bagi balik anak tu to my other brother. Kita orang adik beradik lain pun cant see anyone else come into my brother's life and jadik mak tiri anak sedara yang satu ini.Not anytime soon, at least.

I can sense that there will be some sort of problem coming up.
At times like this I feel like quitting my job and come home dan besarkan my niece nih.

:-(



15 comments:

  1. so tachinggg...
    Hmmm takziah ye. Innalillah smg roh ditempatkan di kalangan beriman. Btw, saya selalu come across kalau ditakdir saya pendek umur sape nak jaga LH? Surely not my PIL... My hubby will surely get married kan...

    haishhh... kena tulis wasiat ni. hehehhee

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  2. Dearest, lidah kelu tak terkata..Hanya mampu berdoa. :)

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    1. Cik Nana:
      kau kat sana, u will see the tension coming LIVE lagik. AKu yang jauh nih lagik la tak terkata apa. Nak balik, u know I cant afford to. Tak balik, kesian budak kecik tu. How now brown cow?

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  3. Al-Fatihah..
    Sham pernah tanya ke Cik Asben.. will you ever get married again if I mati dulu.. dia jawab "tak perlu.." but my most & only concerned mmg the boys la.

    The boys pulak bila ditanya, "kalau Ibu mati dulu, korang nak Ibu baru ke?".. dia org jawab.. "x mo.. duk dgn Uwan & Atuk je la".

    Yet, in your situation.. pernah ada tanya tak ke your niece? Dia sendiri macam mane?

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    1. Thank U Sham.
      macam mana nak tanya dia..she didnt even know dia anak angkat. Tu satu lagik masalah kat situ. How do u tell a 6 years old that. I am a living example of that. If u read my blog dari awal u will know how broken I am becoz of this isu anak angkat. Not forgetting how my brother wud feel when this kid of his found out. :(

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  4. MP..
    Missssing you ;)

    -elle-

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  5. takziah kakak. sorry lama x berblog. Company being so poyo block all things. better xpyah bagi internet. nk blogwalking to your place also cannot.

    sedihhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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  6. i tak baca blog u dari awal tapi apa salahnya kalau pulangkan semula that little innocent girl tu to her biological mother?

    this is why i tak nak ambil anak angkat.. i malas kalau timbulnya feud in the family... bila adanya mcm ni, hubungan yang manis jadi masam... so tak suka...

    i harap agar semuanya jadi baik2 belaka... to both parties...

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  7. Dear MP,

    Takziah ... in managing change kita guna konsep transition management ...

    So jadi tak payah buru-buru ambil keputusan ... bagi lah anak peluang bersama ayah ... because he has already lost his wife ...

    Then pasti tiba masa nya someone will have to look after the child when he goes of for work etc ... so biarlah ia bersama ibu kandung if she wishes so ... bila dia mesra dan selesa ... she can choose to be with whomever she pleases later ...

    Or else at day care ke ... tak apa. As long as father and daughter are happy ... please let them ...

    Ibu tiri ... sesesuatu yang belum pasti ...

    Most importantly she needs strong support that will anchor her ... rather than uprooting her ...

    Sorry panjang pula feedbacknya ... sad because sudah saya lihat keadaan yang seumpama ...

    Salam ...




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  8. U know what is ur problem? U always feel that u r a superhero. U r allowed to be weak, u know.

    Someone who loves you.
    T

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  9. sedihnya..
    sbg ibu yg anak2nya masih kecik,saya selalu fikir kalau saya mati dulu sapa yg sudi jaga anak2 saya?mmglah ada bapaknya tp mesti dia kawen lain kan?uhuhu..sedihnya mmbayangkan..bukan sedih sbb bygkan suami kawen baru tp sedih bygkan anak2 tanpa saya

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