Ada satu full day kat Riyadh nih setara nak tunggu esok to operate a flight to somewhere Near East. Tadik pas belpes, agak macam time shopping mall bukak, dua orang crew dan saya bercita cita hendak menjelajah mall di Riyadh nih. Tah camana leh lupa nih hari ialah hari jemahat. Mall bukak petang dalam kul 4 cengitu. Adeshh...free free jek bagi duit teksi kat teksi driver berbangsa pakistan yang lupa ni hari jemahat mall semua tutup sampai petang. Dia bawak keliling mall tu pas tu cakap...'eh..tutup lah, sister'. Tah dia lupa betul atau purak purak, I dunno. Bersangka baik walaupun rasa hendak menyumpah baik budak valet yg panggilkan teksi atau teksi driver tu sekali atau diri sendiri yang tidak peka. Kulat kulat nak bayo. Vincikkk lah.
Apa lagik nak buat? Balik bilik, on computer dan mencariklah mangsa mangsa untuk diajak sembang di dunia maya. Tajuknya, mari kita bukak sessi Kak Nam...
Al kisah kawan baik saya, jejaka yang dah berapa nak jejaka dah la nih di ambang senja senja suram. Dia kawin tahun 2000. We chatted about how kelat his face masa nak kene kawin tu. I asked masih kelatkah muka dia sekarang dah doblas tahun kawin dengan isteri dia? Masih kelat tapi duk leh cover lagik,jawap dia. I always have known dia tak berapa setuju disuruh kawin. Tapi tetaplah kan menjalankan tanggungjawab sebagai suami zahir dan batin. Takde rezeki nak ada anak lagik.
Dia tak bahagia kata dia. HE is always looking forward nak fly yang layover/night stops yang panjang panjang so takyah nak layan bini dia. Kalau standby selalu mintak flight. Panas bontot duduk dekat binik dia. Dia takleh tunjuk lah kat binik dia, tak mau binik nya tahu he is not really in the marriage.
To people around him, he is a hardworker, rajin kerja untuk sara hidup isteri dia. Wife dia baik, jaga makan pakai dia, so he has no reason to leave her. He is just not happy and cant seem to love her as lover does. Cuma sayang sebab that is his tanggungjawab. I asked la..kalau binik dia mereyeh kat jantan lain, dia ok ke? Dia kata, dia harap itu akan berlaku but it a sin to ask for such thing.
Tah sapa yang dia duk suka, dia tak pernah cakap. But my guess wud be the one who got away. A mutual friend.
Some girl from his past. Ada dulu, hik hik...sumpah aku nih Kak Nam...suka speku .Dia pernah suka satu budak pempuan. Budak pempuan nih pun suka gak lah (kot) but then tah cemana this girl gi kawin dengan orang lain. Kes tunggu lama lama, dia diambil oranggggg....then kawan nih merana dan kawin jek dengan wife dia sekarang, makcik dia kenalkan. Dia sedar it was a rebound thing masa nak kawin tu, but dah lambat nak kensel. Kad dah keluar, catering, dan segala persiapan dah diatur, nak tarik diri dah tak leh. He went on with it and here we are...talking about it.
Macam drama TV dak? Hehehe. Adalah sikit sikit. Tapi kan kawan say anih bukan lah anak Tan Sri atau anak Datuk atau selalu order fresh orange.
I wonder, betul ker binik dia tak tahu he is not into her? 'Into' yang lagik satu, tak beranilah pulak hendak menanya. Or she knows, just sweep it under the carpet, after all dia bukan ada affair pun..so far le ye...He would have told me kalau ada. We are that close. Teruskan jugak the marriage the best way she know. Society is not too kind to divorced people, lelebih lagik kalau pempuan. Kalau lelaki, macam ok jek. Betul ke? He would not want to make her a janda hanya kerana dia tak cinta. Takleh nak selfish sampai macengitu, kata dia lagik.
Mengada tak cinta bagai. Binik kau masak kau makan gak kan. Baju, binik ada nak gosokkan, rumah kau tak lah macam tongkang pecah. Beg nitestop, bekal makan kau fly binik sediakan.
What I think? Kalau dah doblas tahun dia stayed in that marriage, he can stay another doblas tahun, kan? Duduk dendiam situ. Hiks.
Apa lagik nak buat? Balik bilik, on computer dan mencariklah mangsa mangsa untuk diajak sembang di dunia maya. Tajuknya, mari kita bukak sessi Kak Nam...
Al kisah kawan baik saya, jejaka yang dah berapa nak jejaka dah la nih di ambang senja senja suram. Dia kawin tahun 2000. We chatted about how kelat his face masa nak kene kawin tu. I asked masih kelatkah muka dia sekarang dah doblas tahun kawin dengan isteri dia? Masih kelat tapi duk leh cover lagik,jawap dia. I always have known dia tak berapa setuju disuruh kawin. Tapi tetaplah kan menjalankan tanggungjawab sebagai suami zahir dan batin. Takde rezeki nak ada anak lagik.
Dia tak bahagia kata dia. HE is always looking forward nak fly yang layover/night stops yang panjang panjang so takyah nak layan bini dia. Kalau standby selalu mintak flight. Panas bontot duduk dekat binik dia. Dia takleh tunjuk lah kat binik dia, tak mau binik nya tahu he is not really in the marriage.
To people around him, he is a hardworker, rajin kerja untuk sara hidup isteri dia. Wife dia baik, jaga makan pakai dia, so he has no reason to leave her. He is just not happy and cant seem to love her as lover does. Cuma sayang sebab that is his tanggungjawab. I asked la..kalau binik dia mereyeh kat jantan lain, dia ok ke? Dia kata, dia harap itu akan berlaku but it a sin to ask for such thing.
Tah sapa yang dia duk suka, dia tak pernah cakap. But my guess wud be the one who got away. A mutual friend.
Some girl from his past. Ada dulu, hik hik...sumpah aku nih Kak Nam...suka speku .Dia pernah suka satu budak pempuan. Budak pempuan nih pun suka gak lah (kot) but then tah cemana this girl gi kawin dengan orang lain. Kes tunggu lama lama, dia diambil oranggggg....then kawan nih merana dan kawin jek dengan wife dia sekarang, makcik dia kenalkan. Dia sedar it was a rebound thing masa nak kawin tu, but dah lambat nak kensel. Kad dah keluar, catering, dan segala persiapan dah diatur, nak tarik diri dah tak leh. He went on with it and here we are...talking about it.
Macam drama TV dak? Hehehe. Adalah sikit sikit. Tapi kan kawan say anih bukan lah anak Tan Sri atau anak Datuk atau selalu order fresh orange.
I wonder, betul ker binik dia tak tahu he is not into her? 'Into' yang lagik satu, tak beranilah pulak hendak menanya. Or she knows, just sweep it under the carpet, after all dia bukan ada affair pun..so far le ye...He would have told me kalau ada. We are that close. Teruskan jugak the marriage the best way she know. Society is not too kind to divorced people, lelebih lagik kalau pempuan. Kalau lelaki, macam ok jek. Betul ke? He would not want to make her a janda hanya kerana dia tak cinta. Takleh nak selfish sampai macengitu, kata dia lagik.
Mengada tak cinta bagai. Binik kau masak kau makan gak kan. Baju, binik ada nak gosokkan, rumah kau tak lah macam tongkang pecah. Beg nitestop, bekal makan kau fly binik sediakan.
What I think? Kalau dah doblas tahun dia stayed in that marriage, he can stay another doblas tahun, kan? Duduk dendiam situ. Hiks.
There are things which you can change. But his marriage isn't one of them. 12 freaking years with someone you don't love is such a big sacrifice. And he doesn't have a better alternative. So, I agree with you Mak Piah. "Duduk dendiam situ." IF it's not broken why 'fix' it. :D
ReplyDeleteIbrahim:
DeleteYes indeed. Dia jek tak tau how lucky he is. I agree to his in order to be happy with a person, u have to love, but hey..when u have someone who tolerate all ur shortcomings and also cold shoulder, what is there to complain about?
Mp,
ReplyDeleteAnother post yang bikin hatiku gelegak. Hish apa jenis laki nih... come on la 12 years tau awak tu kawen dengan bini tu takkan takde lgsg sekelumit cinta? sian wife dia yang baik tu. Oh my buleh buat drama air mata pulak kisah depa ni kan? sedihnya kalau bini dia tau suami dia tak cinta dia. *tears*... sob sob sob
Mami LH :
DeleteDia tak rasa apa pun. Tapi tanggung jawab dia, dia tak abaikan. Kesian wife dia, kesian dia jugak. Dia tak pernah lagik la ada affair ke mende...tapi itu lah. Dia sayang, but like he said, sekadar sayang kerana tu tanggungjawab. itu sahaja.
Binik dia macam tau jek. I am sure she know. tapi sebab dia baik, dia pasrah sahaja. when I am home, kita orang kan selalu hang out, I can see how she tried. How he tried too. Sedih kan???
:-(
rweply dari sisi jahat aku..
ReplyDeleteharap2 ex bf jadik seperti kawan mu itu..sentiasa dihantui bayang2 ku...muahahahaaaa
Nashays:
DeleteHeheheh. AKu pun begitu jua...LOL ada kes kah?:P
makes me question whether my husband is happy with his decision to marry me. hhmm...
ReplyDeleteand i do have a friend like that, hes not really into his gf. but they are not married yet lah. i pun selalu nasihat, kalau nak kahwin, biar betul betul cinta!
Ectopy:
DeleteI am sure ur hubby is happy with u. Heheh jangan berprasangka. U guys has gone thru a lot and the most important thing...love is there. :-) ok?
Urfff..! Tell ur fren, pikir betul betul. Baik yg bf atau yg gf. Becoz panjang perjalanannya.
as i knowlahkan...my exhubby gedik2 dgn i even dah kahwin dgn pompuan lain.. nak kata tak suka tapi dah masuk 3 years dah pun...
ReplyDeletekalau dah 12 tahun kahwin tu..as u said, duk je diam2 kat situ.. cinta pun kadang2 tak guna kalau bini tak buat apa2...
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DeleteNenet:
Deleteur ex tu, dah 3 tahun pun tetap tak jumpa 'someone-like-you* in whomever he married :-) Like this guy, he still belong to her even he is married to another.
mama seswatuh sgt
ReplyDeletehuh,,sakit ati..bukan 2 bulan kawen
12 tahun tu bukan kejap
setahun 365 hari di darab dgn 12 =4380 hari
emm